Christmas with the Jew

This time of year is particularly difficult for my family. My mom and I are Jewish, my dad was raised a Catholic, and my husband is Baptist. Yeah, a good mix. We tend to celebrate both Chanukah for my mother and I and Christmas for my father and husband. I understand the similarities and differences between the two but my 7 year old isn’t 100% understanding it which is normal for a 7 year old. This year in particular the first night of Chanukah is Christmas Eve. I have to light the candles while the others watch Santa Claus is Coming to Town. I enjoy both parties and no my kids don’t get 8 nights of Chanukah presents and Christmas on top of that. They get a present the first night and then celebrate Christmas. We have a tradition where they get to open one gift Christmas Eve anyways so there won’t be to much change. Recently my 7 year old has become more interested in his faith. I have been waiting for this question. “Mama, why do we celebrate Chanukah and the other kids get Christmas?” Mind you he knows we do both for both sides of the family but it does get a little confusing at times. I have tried to explain the reason for Chanukah and the reason for Christmas(with my husbands help), but he still wants to know more and I don’t think he will understand the differences and the similarities between Jewish holidays and Christian, Baptist, Catholic, ect. holidays. Am I wrong to not want to try to explain it just yet because he won’t understand it or should I try anyways?


Day to Day- Step by Step

I am always wondering how to change my day to day. It seems as if I am in the same rut for everything. Get up, get the kids dressed, get myself ready, get kids to school, go to work, go home, cook dinner, put kids to bed, blah, blah, blah. As a mother of two small boys and a soon to be pre teen(my nephew), I feel like there is no monotony in my life. Even my days off are the same. Tell myself I will do laundry and clean house and end up on the couch not giving any crap towards household chores. I need motivation. I need suggestions on what everyone else does to get their stuff done. How does everyone else deal with the madness in their lives? I am too broke to buy wine!! HELP!

Introducing MOM

Let me start by introducing myself. I am Samantha Lane. The Ring Leader of this circus. My husband, well, he helps keep our monkeys in their spot. I was a single mom when I met my husband in November of 2013. About 3  years ago I got a job as a Corrections Officer. As a cadet, I always thought this man that I had to stand by, was very attractive but oh so quiet. I drove back and forth to Reidsville, GA. Alone. It was a long ride. One day a couple of ladies came to me and asked if I drove from Jesup and if so, they had one more spot for carpool and you just had to provide gas for that week. Hell yeah. Where do I sign up? So I was scheduled to meet these wonderful ladies the next morning and ride with them to work. I was so excited to make some new friends. Thinking that I would be greeted by 3 ladies that morning, I was wrong. 2 ladies and 1 guy. Not a bad thing, I was down to make friends with everyone, but there was one problem. The man in the back seat was my “Job Crush”. All the way to work that morning I sat in a bubble with my box on my lap staring out the window(Not like I could see anything with it being 4AM and pitch black out), but I was doing everything I can to not make eye contact with him. Finally, I heard what his voice sounded like when he spoke for the first time to me. “You know, you can set your box down on top of mine if you would like.” Sweet sounds coming from his mouth embarrassed me more. I squeaked out the words, “I’m good”. He just giggled a little that made my heart flutter. I knew he knew I had a Job Crush on him. Well as December was coming to a close, I found out he was single. So I told him I was going to the bar for New Years Eve and I knew he liked to have a few drinks so I asked if he would like to join me. I was the DD. I don’t drink that much if at all. He kindly accepted. As we rang in the New Years, we shared our first kiss. I will never forget that moment. January 1st, 2014. He made my heart about shoot out of my chest. We finally came to the “Dating” status the middle of the month. And, as time went on, he was the first to say “I love you.” I knew from the beginning he was what I was looking for in my life. He loved me and my son like his own. We were engaged by August that year and pregnant as well. His first child. Married on October 21st, 2014. Our lives were fixing to change forever. In more ways than just bringing a child into this world. Placeholder Image